Can you find happiness before becoming successful?
The answer is yes. You become happy first, but you never become successful.
Well, happiness is both not a choice and a choice.
Let me tell you why.
A psychologist said that 50% of happiness is genetically predetermined. So, half of your happiness is already determined the moment you were born. So, you are skew to get happiness without being successful at first. Contrary to this psychologist, I want to reduce the percentage, and just make it 20%.
The other half, 80%, lies within your control – your relationship, health, career, activities, goals, and many others. Even if you have the inborn tendency to skew on the dark side, there are still some steps that you can take on to be happy.
Do not count what you don’t have. Count what you have and be thankful. Start counting your blessings now and count them one by one. You will be amazed they are a lot to mention.
Your relationship with your loved one, family, and friends will have an impact on the level of happiness that you have.
Actively pursuing your goals can bring you happiness. An author named David Niven said that you are 19% happier and satisfied if you are seeking your goals in life. It can make you feel more positive in life. Be grateful for what you have, but strive for more.
We already know from the adage that it is better to give than to receive. But that is not all. It feels great when you help other people. You do not have to be rich to do that. I just like giving because it reminds me that I have more, so I should be thankful.
If you think that money makes you happy, you are probably wrong. Yes, money is a road to experience happiness, but it cannot buy happiness. So, do not be sad because you don’t have money.
Depending on what you use to measure success, you can be happy.
After meeting Herbert Marcuse, a German-born American philosopher, I learned that Happiness is really a CHOICE. If you choose to be happy, you go and do what gives you pleasure. If you do this, do not expect any financial stability in return because, according to Sigmund Freud, happiness has no economic value.
Therefore, if you want to succeed, you have to suppress pleasure. Learn to control yourself — no wonder why successful people are the ones with so much control of themselves.